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 About Me

My work as a Professional Dominatrix began in June of 2017 stemming from a career as a performance artist and holistic health practitioner. I became intrigued with the way power dynamics could awaken ones innate role as either Dominant, submissive, or somewhere in between. My authentic expression was naturally Dominant and through a creative approach, I gained the knowledge and training it took to authentically and consensually Dominate.


From 2019-2022 I owned and operated Nightshade Sanctuary, a fully equipped dungeon in San Francisco that catered to Professional providers and artists within the community. During its various iterations, it acted as a safe space for kinksters to connect and forge memories and bonds through consensual play.


In 2021, amidst the ongoing pandemic, my artistic practice began to deepen, allowing for new projects under the pseudonym Ms Tress to emerge. I began a series of paintings entitled "Impact" where I use different types of floggers as my paintbrushes to create abstract paintings of bright colors and textural movements. This series accompanied by other large oil paintings has helped me to embrace the artist with the dominatrix, where my worlds can creatively coexist.

I continue to shift and grow in my various practices by investing in my education, learning from my colleagues and saying yes to taking risks. Whether I'm in the dungeon or in the art studio, I strive to live in my most authentic truth.

Education and Interviews

Mueller College of Holistic Health 2006-2007

Over 1000 credited hours to gain a degree as a Holistic Health Practitioner with an education in massage therapy modalities, TCM, Ayurveda, Reiki, Craniosacral, and other somatic therapies.

San Francisco Art Institute 2012-2014

Studied Painting and New genres conceptual performance art before dropping out and becoming a drag queen.

Domme Education 2017-Present

Attendee of DomCon LA and New Orleans 2018.

Attendee of Tara Indiana's Medical School, Interrogation and Findom Classes hosted at Sacred Muse

Numerous Online classes to date.

Distinguished educators and mentors include Simone Justice, Princess Kali, Mz Kim, Damiana Chi, Eve Minax, and many many more.

Interviews and Articles

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Answers to your Questions

Where are you Located? 

I currently have a home base in Southern California where I'm able to take sessions out of private In Call spaces in both San Diego and Los Angeles. I fly up the Bay Area about once a month and am able to book sessions with advanced notice. I play out of an exclusive dungeon located in San Francisco. I post updated travel dates to this website, twitter, and tryst but you can always take the initiative and FMTY.

Do you offer Online sessions?

Yes, I offer texting, phone calls, and video chats over Sextpanther. Set rates apply. This is a great way to connect with Me before meeting in person or a way to fulfill those fantasies when not in My physical presence. My voice alone has the power to make you submit. If you see that I'm not online, please email me to schedule a time to connect. You can also connect with Me personally by subscribing to My LoyalFans site.

What is your Availability?

I take session requests Monday-Sunday 10am-10pm, however, My schedule varies month to month, and because I am often traveling, advanced bookings are necessary. I do not offer same day appointments and I Prefer and give priority to longer sessions, (2 hr. minimum.)

Why do you need a deposit?

To secure the rental space in advance and to secure my time and yours. 

​Is there a late/cancellation fee?

Yes. If you are late, I expect to be compensated for our scheduled time in its entirety. If you need to cancel, you forfeit the deposit fee.

For cancellations, 24 hours notice is needed in order to avoid any charges. If you do so within that time, I will allow you to rebook within the month. If it is past that, then you forfeit the deposit. If you cancel Less than 24 hours, I will require a tribute of 50% of the total time set. No exceptions.

Do you play Only with men?

NO. I love playing with ALL genders and sexualities, couples, novices, and Professionals alike. I offer considerable discounted rates for women, trans, non-binary, and gender non-conforming people. Please Inquire.

​Do you do multi-day sessions?

Yes. This must be made a least 1 month in advance to secure time and space. It requires a large non-refundable deposit and enforces a strict 72-hour cancellation policy. Inquire within for more information.

Do you do Public Outings? 

Yes. I love discreet public play and offer this at a lesser rate than My dungeon sessions. This is a great way to get to know me better or to indulge in treating Me to unique catered experiences. This would appeal to those who are new to BDSM as well as fetishists, voyeurists, and experienced players alike. Book this experience on it's own or tack it on before or after some time in the dungeon for some extra fun!


Do you do multi-Mistress sessions? 

Yes! Yes! Yes! I love playing with fellow Femdoms. What's more ideal than being surrounded by powerful Dominants? Book a dungeon session or take us out on the town. Individual rates for each Mistress apply.

Is it appropriate to bring gifts or to tip?

While not a requirement, it is courteous to show your appreciation in some form. I love receiving thoughtful gifts or gratuity that recognizes the time and intention that was put in before, during, and after your session. Receiving gifts from my wishlist are always an unexpected surprise and remind me of you, just as you are thinking of Me.

Can I be your slave or collared by You?  

If you are asking right off the bat to be My slave, then No, you may not. This is a fantasy for you and the reality is that it takes years of dedicated sessions to build a trustworthy relationship for Me to even consider this. My collared submissives and slaves have earned the right to serve Me to such a degree and I value them for their time, dedication, and patience.

What is your ideal submissive?

I appreciate someone who comes in with an open mind and enthusiasm; someone who is willing to push themselves, learn and grow out of the experience. A respectful person who has taken the time to read, inquire, and does the necessary steps show Me that you take Me, My craft, and our time together seriously. I also very much appreciate good hygiene and cleanliness.

What kinds of play do you especially enjoy?

I love playing on many levels, from sensual sensory to heavy corporal sessions. I especially enjoy anything that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and subservient training (to teach and expand one's ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of my favorites. Regardless of the play, I am most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.

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